30 years of marriage wisdom: is love enough ?
“I know you say love is enough to hold things together, but to paraphrase a line from a song in Fiddler on the Roof : A bird and a fish can fall in love, but if they do, where would they live? Often love is not enough when transitions occur and one of you doesn’t move in the same direction as the other. And if you do not grow together, then you increase the very real risk of growing apart. It was almost as if the husband described above was punishing his wife for being loyal to his dream to the point of sacrificing her own development. But wait a minute before you nail him to the tree—feelings of guilt do not make a “relationship last. Anyone can feel benevolence. Yet no one wants to be loved as a charity. We must grow together in love if we are to share the dream and sustain it. Since achieving a dream takes time, we must learn how to support each other consistently, particularly during the stalls and delays that we’re bound to face.
vision, purpose, destiny,