“Husbands must win their wives’ submission by making themselves worthy of it.
“Just as Paul compares the husband to Christ, he compares the wife to the Church. Wives are to submit to their husbands as the Church submits to Christ. At the same time, husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the Church. The two are reciprocal actions: As the husband loves his wife sacrificially, his wife submits to him.
Husbands must win their wives’ submission by making themselves worthy of it. They do this by learning to love their wives in the way that Christ loves His Church. How does Christ love His Church? How does He draw His people to Him so that they submit to Him? “Jesus wins us by wooing us. First He reveals Himself to us in some way and captures our heart with His love. Then He gently draws us to Himself: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness” (Jer. 31:3b). He extends an open invitation for us to come to Him, be forgiven of our sins, and receive the gift of everlasting life. Once we understand how much He loves us and how much He has done for us, we realize that we would be crazy not to follow Him. That’s when, in response to His gentle drawing, we decide of our own free will to come to Him.
Submitting ourselves to Christ is our choice. He never pushes His way in. Jesus never twists our arm or pressures us in any other way. He simply says, “Here I am. “Come to Me.” Submission is never forced from without. Submission is freely chosen and willingly given. Once we submit ourselves to Jesus, He becomes the center of our life. He has wooed us so well and we love Him so much that we are ready to go anywhere and do anything for Him.
In the same way, a husband should woo his wife. Always hold her in highest honor and regard her with utmost respect as a person. Cover her with prayer and protect her. Treat her with kindness, consideration, and compassion. Don’t be afraid to show tender affection. Remember to do little acts of thoughtfulness. Buy her flowers. Take her to dinner at a fine restaurant. Surprise her with a weekend getaway just for two. In words, in deeds, and in every other way possible, let her know that she is loved, valued, and regarded above all others.
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