“Love does not guarantee success in marriage”

“Love does not guarantee success in marriage”

“Knowledge is the answer. A successful marriage has little to do with love. Love does not guarantee success in marriage. Love is very important for happiness in marriage, but by itself it cannot make a marriage work. The only thing that makes a marriage work is knowledge. As a matter of fact, the only thing that makes anything work is knowledge. Success depends on how much we know about something, not how we feel about it.
Most married people love and feel good about each other, but many do not know how to communicate effectively or relate well to each other. There is a huge difference between recognizing feelings and knowing how to deal with conflict. Some people define intelligence as the ability to solve complex problems. More accurately, intelligence is the ability to face reality and deal with problems while maintaining one’s sanity. Dealing with problems is not necessarily the same as solving them. Some problems can’t be solved. An intelligent person is someone who can maintain “his stability and sense of self-worth under any circumstances, evaluate the situation, deal effectively with the problem, and come out intact on the other side.
There is a great need today for intelligence and knowledge regarding marriage to offset widespread ignorance on the subject. Even the Christian Church, which should be the voice of authority on the subject of marriage, is suffering because many believers, including leaders, are biblically illiterate where marriage and the family are concerned. In this day when all the old values are being challenged left and right, both within and without the Church, many people are confused, uncertain of what to believe anymore. The root cause of this confusion is lack of knowledge.
Knowledge is critical for success and survival in anything. In Hosea 4:6a God says, “My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge.” “My people” refers to the children of God. Even Christians need knowledge. The greatest knowledge of all is to, “know God. Proverbs 1:7 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline” (emphasis added). It doesn’t matter how often we come to church or how often we worship the Lord; without knowledge, we have no guarantee of success.
One of the things that really bothered me as a young Christian was hearing about so many other Christians getting divorced. If followers of Christ were failing in their marriages, what hope was there for anybody else? Here were people who supposedly were filled with the Holy Spirit, who supposedly knew the Holy God, and yet they couldn’t seem to live together and get along. If that was true, we might as well forget the whole thing!
It took me a little while to learn that success in marriage depends on more than just being saved. It takes more than just being in love. Being a believer and being in love are both important in marriage, but they carry no automatic guarantee of marital, “success. We need knowledge of biblical principles; the design parameters that God Himself established. Biblical principles never change. The principles for a successful marriage and family that God gave Adam and Eve still work today. They are universally applicable in every age and in every culture. Trouble comes when we violate or ignore those principles.
Ultimately, marriage will not survive on love alone, or on feelings. By itself, just being born again is not enough to guarantee success. A successful marriage hinges on knowledge—knowing and understanding God’s principles.

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“The greatest Gift given to mankind is the gift of Vision not sight. How do you know that the vision you have for your life is from God?

“The greatest Gift given to mankind is the gift of Vision not sight. How do you know that the vision you have for your life is from God?

How do you know that the vision you have for your life is from God? How do you distinguish between personal ambition and divine vision?
The answer to those questions is simple: if your vision improves only your life, focuses only on your needs, and fulfills only your private dreams, it is not a divine vision. Any true vision, motivated by the Creator, will improve the lives of those around you. Servant leadership is about the others. It is not about us. Servant leadership is becoming yourself for the advantage of others. True vision will always benefit and improve others, never harm or destroy them. True vision does not exist to benefit the visionary, as the car does not exist to get itself around. Your vision might be to have a big house, but that is not a vision from God— unless He wants you to have it so you can fill it up with children orphaned by AIDS or the homeless. If your vision is to have a big car, that is not a vision from God— unless He wants you to have it to transport the needy, the infirmed, and the elderly to get medical help. Your desire for the big house or the big car is ambition, not vision. A truly authentic vision will always serve humanity to make it better. It will always advance humanity, develop people, benefit people. If so, it is probably a vision from God.
Selling drugs is not a vision from God. Stealing property is not a vision from God. A vision from God will always benefit other people.
A woman told me not long ago, My passion is to become a model. I asked, “OK, why? When she could not answer, I said, “Then, that is not God’s call for your life. If you can’t tell me how it’s going to benefit humanity, you had better go check God again. Vision flows from your purpose. Purpose is why you were born. Vision comes when you see your purpose. When you can feel your purpose, you can see your vision.
For example, you may have a passion that comes from your desire to help children. You just love children. It makes you angry to see them hurting. That is a sign: whatever makes you angry probably is tied to your purpose. “Whenever you say, Someone has to fix that . . . someone should do something about that,” God is revealing your purpose. You are that someone. You feel this thing for kids. You cannot figure out what it is. You do not know why, but you just hate to see kids who are abused, wayward, and lost. It really eats you up. The person next to you is not moved by it, but seeing children suffer can make you cry. You do not even know the children. When you see visions of how you can make changes, when you begin to see pictures in your mind of what you can do about it, you are moving into vision. Having a wider field of vision in your area of gifting than others do is part of your gift as a leader. “When you serve your vision to others, they benefit. You were born with a vision, and your passion in life is to bring that vision out for the benefit of humanity. When you become a passionate visionary for the benefit of others, you are a leader.
In matters pertaining to your area of gifting, I will follow you because you have shown me a picture of the world, as you see it. It is a vision worthy of my cooperation with you. You have made me see the value of working with you or through you to fulfill this picture you painted. I can see where you are taking me.

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Sunday sermon: “Kingdom faith is to trust the Source and not the resource. Ask your self how much do I really trust God?

Sunday sermon: “Kingdom faith is to trust the Source and not the resource. Ask your self how much do I really trust God?

“Sir,” they said, “from now on give us this bread.” Then Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to Me will never go hungry, and he who believes in Me will never be thirsty. But as I told you, you have seen Me and still you do not believe” (John 6:34-36).
In the Kingdom of God the issue is not how much faith you have, but where your faith is placed. Are you following Jesus Christ, or are you following signs and wonders and prosperity? Is your faith in Jesus Christ the “bread of life,” or are you satisfied with the bread of blessing? Are you seeking to satisfy your spirit or merely trying to fill your belly? Are you trusting in things that never truly satisfy or in the One who satisfies forever? Most people I have met focus their faith on the bread and not the Baker. The principle of “Kingdom faith is to trust the Source and not the resource.
Make no mistake about it: the Kingdom of God will meet our every need, absolutely. But it is for this very reason that we are not to trust in those things that will meet our needs but in the King who provides them. As Kingdom citizens, our business is to trust, obey, and serve the king; His business is to take care of us. This is what Jesus meant when He said,
So do not worry, saying, “What shall we eat?” or “What shall we drink?” or “What shall we wear?” For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well (Matthew 6:31-33).”
“We don’t follow God for what we can get from Him. Kingdom faith is faith in the king, not the king’s favor. It is faith in Him, not His gifts.”

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“MATURITY: IT TAKES TIME BUT HOW MUCH? : Growing in maturity requires us to make some decisions,

“MATURITY: IT TAKES TIME BUT HOW MUCH? : Growing in maturity requires us to make some decisions,

“The Bible makes it very clear that there can be a point in the life of every believer where he or she consistently responds to things from God’s perspective. That doesn’t mean absolute sinless perfection—that only comes once we’re in heaven. What it means is that whatever comes our way, including our stumbles, we will respond in “the way God would have us respond simply because we have the mind of Christ.
But how long does it take? How much time do most of us need to spend in the faith before we reach that level of maturity? Well, in some ways that depends on us.
One of the things I tell people in our church membership class is that there is a simple equation when it comes to getting from where we are now to where we want to be, and it’s this: Rate multiplied by time equals distance. In other words, the faster we travel toward a destination, the less time it takes us to get there. If I get in my car and head for a spot in downtown at the same time someone else starts walking for the same place, I’m going to get there a lot faster. In fact, I’ll probably have had lunch, headed back home, and gone to bed by the time they get downtown.
I’ve seen the relevance of that illustration in people I’ve known who have been coming to church for years but who aren’t any closer to spiritual maturity than when they first started coming. They got saved, started coming to church every time the doors were open, attended every fellowship and Bible study available—and yet they’re still not downtown yet. And why? Because they’re still crawling when they should have been walking or even running years ago.
God’s goal for every believer is to conform us to the image of His Son, and that requires time. But that doesn’t mean we are to just sit around waiting for it to happen. It requires the proper use of our time.
The question each believer needs to ask is, “What am I doing with the time God has given me to maximize my spiritual maturity?” If we are doing the basics God asks of us—such as reading His written Word and learning through the Holy Spirit to apply it to day-to-day life— then we are proactively making progress toward spiritual maturity But if we never move beyond “that first stage in our spiritual development, we can’t expect God to just magically move us there.
Growing in maturity requires us to make some decisions, the most important of which is to grow in our relationship with Him.”

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Words for today: Never be a cheap copy of a great original, Only God can define who you are.

Words for today: Never be a cheap copy of a great original, Only God can define who you are.

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I will not mislead you. Change involves some discomfort. What you have believed “about yourself—that you’re a worm with a criminal past and never get a break, that you’re not smart enough or good-looking enough to succeed, that you don’t have the talent or the drive other people have, or that you will never be able to have a happy family or healthy relationships—has given you an excuse to back off, quit, and fail. That kind of thinking is right from the pit of hell and has kept you from being who God created you to be, but it has been all you’ve ever known, and it has become your comfort zone. “Now God wants you to change. First, He wants you to change the way you see yourself. He wants you to see yourself as He sees you: righteous, holy, beloved of God, with a divine nature and destiny, endowed with His authority and power, full “of His love and grace. Then He wants you to act like what you see. He wants you to be Jesus to everyone you meet and step out in faith to do what He’s called you to do. Can you see how all this is impossible without renewing your mind with God’s Word? “If you have dragged your feet with God, it’s time to step up to the plate and get your mind renewed! Reprogram your conscious and subconscious mind with the Living Word and be healed in soul and body. Leave your old, worldly comfort zone behind and move into the high life with Jesus. Once you begin to walk in this life of His love, grace, and peace, you will never look back!”

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“From this day on, let God fill your imagination and thought-life with His Word and His will for your life. Choose to be programmed by Him instead of the world around you and the enemy behind it. I promise you that you will be able to move forward in all He’s called you to do with supernatural wisdom and ability you never dreamed possible. One day you will wake up and look back to see all the things you have accomplished and marvel that everything God showed you in your heart, with the eyes of your spirit, came to pass. “If we are going to follow Jesus, we are going to move out of our comfort zone. Always remember, you or somebody, you or who God created you to be, God bless.

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