There are many reasons why it is essential for young married couples to leave home physically and emotionally. One of the most important is to give them the opportunity from the very beginning of their marriage to cultivate companionship with each other. Companionship is the basis for all successful marriage. The parent/child relationship is established by birth or adoption, but the husband/wife relationship is established by covenant, and there is a difference. Because marriage is a covenant established by God and sealed by the Holy Spirit, it supercedes blood ties. Blood may be thicker than water, but it is not thicker than promise.
The parent/child relationship is established by birth or adoption, but the husband/wife relationship is established by covenant.
In marriage, our spouse is more important than any other person on earth. Other than the Lord, no one, and I mean no one, should take precedence over our husband or our wife either in our attention or our affection. We should give deference to each other ahead of parents, siblings, or any other ties of blood or family. The opinions, desires, or demands of family members no longer hold sway. Spouses must[…]”
“Like any other worthwhile endeavor, building companionship requires patience, time, and hard work. Companionship must be cultivated. Anyone who desires to have a beautiful garden must be willing to take the time to turn and prepare the soil, add fertilizer, plant the seeds, irrigate carefully, pull up weeds diligently, and give patient, daily attention to the new plants. Companionship in marriage must be nurtured with the same degree of care. It will not develop overnight or accidentally. Any “weeds” that would choke out the developing flower of companionship must be rooted out.
One of those “weeds” that troubles far too many marriages is the well-intentioned but inappropriate interference of family members into the daily affairs of the couple’s life and relationship. Once a man and woman have married, the only thing they should receive from their parents is advice and counsel, and then only when they ask for it. Parents should not offer opinions or advice without being asked. To do so undermines the development of the leadership and self-determination of the couple. When they married, the leadership and decision-making responsibilities transferred from their former homes to the new home they are building together. All leadership[…]”
Munroe, Myles. “The Purpose and Power of Love & Marriage.”
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